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When Faltering Happens

By Delphine du Toit | December 18, 2016

  <1312 words> Faltering can happen any time, no matter how well prepared you are and how experienced and skilled and everything. No doubt faltering has many causes but to my mind, when emotions simply will not remain in the back row of a command performance, the prospects of faltering happening significantly increases. “I was struck with…

My Story of an African Farm

By Delphine du Toit | November 10, 2016

<1156 words> Apparently it was necessary for me to have a crazy dream of registering for a farmers’ expo here in Nova Scotia. The rule was that if you could register a VOF (Very Old Farm) you somehow could claim senior status.  I thought I might use my grandfather’s farm outside Mafikeng in South Africa –…

Conflict Management Starts with Self

By Delphine du Toit | October 24, 2016

<1609 words> Recipe for Conflict A minimum of two people and an issue on which they disagree. Add to the recipe the factors that the people each bring into the relationship: Values, Culture & Triggers Our values are what we judge to be important in life: our personal principles.  The rules we live by. They…

RESPECT & CURIOSITY: On Elephants and Others

By Delphine du Toit | September 30, 2016

<1281 words> I have a great deal of respect for wild elephants and am careful to show that respect by backing out of their way when they come walking down the road towards my car. I believe I’ve learned a thing or two about elephant culture in my multiple trips to various game reserves across Africa…

Like a River Flows

By Delphine du Toit | September 20, 2016

<1230 words> They say that our thoughts naturally turn to contemplation of the future when we watch water in motion. When I was about to turn 60, my brother, Guillaume, died of a glioblastoma multiforme brain tumour and I came across ‘The Waterfall’ by Zen philosopher Shunryu Suzuki.  It is his reflection on life, upon a…

The Roads Less Travelled

By Delphine du Toit | August 31, 2016

  <1197 words> Twice in the past 48 hours my GPS on my not so smart phone encouraged me onto roads very infrequently travelled. My standard mode of transport is a 9 year old Toyota Corolla – so middle of the road that I regularly have to use the little red button on the remote…

PADDLING YOUR OWN CANOE

By Delphine du Toit | July 30, 2016

<1412 words> My summers in Nova Scotia are defined by the number of kayaking adventures I can pack into a week.  Sometimes I go out alone – for quite long trips – ‘quite long’ in my books usually means several hours, not several days or weeks.  Most often I am joined by friends or family…

The lid stays on

The Speed of Trust – reflections upon

By Delphine du Toit | July 13, 2016

<1344 words> My son gave me a Vitamix for Christmas.  I’ve become pretty proficient at creating interesting and sometimes compelling smooth greenies as a result.  I’ve developed quite a taste for them, in fact. It is a formidable machine. It is to blenders what the Lexus is to cars.  Some might even say it’s what a…

Four Decades of Being a ‘Senior’

By Delphine du Toit | June 18, 2016

<1243 words> FOUR DECADES OF BEING A ‘SENIOR’ WARRANTS A CLOSER LOOK AT THE DIFFERENCES There are more and more forecasts that more and more of us will live to be one hundred. Our eligibility for Canada Pension kicks in at 60. For many of us that marks the beginning of our new status – we’ve…

“Eat your peas” and Conflict Resolution

By Delphine du Toit | May 28, 2016

  <436 words> I was recently asked about my background in conflict management/resolution, and specifically, how many years’ experience I have in the field. I help people with all sorts of conflict – The inner conflict you have when you should have stood your ground but didn’t, which you still regret after all these years;…