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Like a River Flows

By Delphine du Toit | September 20, 2016

<1230 words> They say that our thoughts naturally turn to contemplation of the future when we watch water in motion. When I was about to turn 60, my brother, Guillaume, died of a glioblastoma multiforme brain tumour and I came across ‘The Waterfall’ by Zen philosopher Shunryu Suzuki.  It is his reflection on life, upon a…

The Roads Less Travelled

By Delphine du Toit | August 31, 2016

  <1197 words> Twice in the past 48 hours my GPS on my not so smart phone encouraged me onto roads very infrequently travelled. My standard mode of transport is a 9 year old Toyota Corolla – so middle of the road that I regularly have to use the little red button on the remote…

PADDLING YOUR OWN CANOE

By Delphine du Toit | July 30, 2016

<1412 words> My summers in Nova Scotia are defined by the number of kayaking adventures I can pack into a week.  Sometimes I go out alone – for quite long trips – ‘quite long’ in my books usually means several hours, not several days or weeks.  Most often I am joined by friends or family…

The lid stays on

The Speed of Trust – reflections upon

By Delphine du Toit | July 13, 2016

<1344 words> My son gave me a Vitamix for Christmas.  I’ve become pretty proficient at creating interesting and sometimes compelling smooth greenies as a result.  I’ve developed quite a taste for them, in fact. It is a formidable machine. It is to blenders what the Lexus is to cars.  Some might even say it’s what a…

Four Decades of Being a ‘Senior’

By Delphine du Toit | June 18, 2016

<1243 words> FOUR DECADES OF BEING A ‘SENIOR’ WARRANTS A CLOSER LOOK AT THE DIFFERENCES There are more and more forecasts that more and more of us will live to be one hundred. Our eligibility for Canada Pension kicks in at 60. For many of us that marks the beginning of our new status – we’ve…

“Eat your peas” and Conflict Resolution

By Delphine du Toit | May 28, 2016

  <436 words> I was recently asked about my background in conflict management/resolution, and specifically, how many years’ experience I have in the field. I help people with all sorts of conflict – The inner conflict you have when you should have stood your ground but didn’t, which you still regret after all these years;…

Get Beyond the Bad of Stress. But you Must Want To.

By Delphine du Toit | May 1, 2016

<654 words and 2 links> Stress is a natural part of life.  In limited doses it is good for you – for your brain and for your body. When your brain grabs hold of some old unresolved quarrel, though, and it simply won’t let go, you can end up in a chronic state of stress which…

From Wikipedia on Indian Ocean Cyclones 1993/4

What does resilience really look like, anyway?

By Delphine du Toit | April 22, 2016

<1457 words – yes, this is a long one but it contains an interesting story and some pictures :-)> And, I’ve added a link at the bottom of this blog to a very informative article on resilience that appeared in the New Yorker in Feb 2016. More on the science of…. Do any of these words…

The Ongoing Debate about whether The Glass is Half-full or Half-empty

By Delphine du Toit | April 18, 2016

In preparation for my previous blog (YOU DO NOT HAVE TO FIRE NEGATIVE FRIENDS) I looked around on the Internet for quotes.  I landed on one of my favourite sites www.businessballs.com where they listed an entertaining elaboration on the theme of whether a glass is half full or half empty.  I enjoyed them so much that…

You Do Not Have to Fire Negative Friends

By Delphine du Toit | April 18, 2016

868 words When you Google ‘negative friends’ it virtually immediately offers up the highest performing results of the 340,000,000 out there.  Of the ones I examined, most offered survival advice – how to cope with or avoid the negative person, and if all else fails,  how to dump them and find a new friend. In my…