About

Meet Delphine du Toit, Halifax, NS Mediator, Conflict Coach, and Workshop Facilitator

My workplace is everywhere

I work across all time zones, online.   I also work face-to-face with groups and individual clients, although that is of course limited by geography and occasional official panedmic-triggered travel restrictions. I happily travel across the Maritime provinces of Canada to provide coaching, mediation, training, as requested by my clients.

You do have a choice.

On my BLOG page I share my thoughts on a wide range of topics so that you can catch a glimpse of me, the person, as well as the professional. 

Personal change isn’t ever easy. In this time of COVID-19 some of us have changed without even realising it.  Until someone comments on how different we are.  The question arises: do I want to go back to who I was, or can I use who I’ve become as a baseline and choose to go forward to who I want to be.  

I’m there to support you in creating the change you want.

THIS IS WHAT CLIENTS HAVE RECENTLY SAID ABOUT MY WORK

“Delphine is amazing. Her ability to connect on a personal level, coach and guide in a way so effective it feels like you’re chatting with a close friend. Her flexible approach allowed me to open up and be super vulnerable, which she also mirrored so that I was more comfortable doing so. Speaking with her was one of the places I felt 100% safe to share exactly what I was going through and the progress I got out of doing so, while immeasurable, is one of the most valuable things I gained from this journey.” – Janee Ortiz, June 2019: Participant in an 18-month leadership journey offered by Gaia-INSIGHTS

“We all have baggage, but growing up in South Africa gifts anyone from there with a special type of baggage. I’ve had to confront my white privilege, white guilt and the reality that those two things are very different between Canada and South Africa.

In Canada minorities are struggling for equality and to find a voice, ironically it’s the same way white people feel in South Africa. But unlike being a minority in Canada, very few believe a white South African when we speak the truth. Of those few that do some say we deserve it, despite contractual  promises being made to end apartheid by the ANC and IFP to treat whites fairly signed into law for equality…. promises never kept, much like the native treaties in Canada were never upheld. The lack of equality has made me very angry and something I need help to let go.

Delphine has helped me admit I had a little racism I had to be honest about and address, how to see things from the Canadian perspective and change my choice of words and to be realistic and make peace with some topics that they will never be  understood and to stay away from. 

Most of all we South Africans are fighters. I feel like I ran away from South Africa and didn’t stay to fight for the country I love, Delphine is helping me to forgive myself, and most of all she truly understands who I am, where I am from, and therefore how I am going to get where I’m going.” – Anon client, 2022

Dal rampant eagle (1) MSW, Dalhousie University, 1980

HIGHLIGHTS OF PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT OVER THE PAST DECADE

  • Basic Family Mediation – Family Mediation Canada (2022)
  • The 2021 Canada Divorce Act Amendments Take Hold: What You Need to Know about the First Four Months of Operation – Judge Nancy Flatters (2022)
  • Q.Med  – ADR Institute of Canada (2017)
  • Associate Certified Coach – International Coach Federation (2016)
  • Elder Mediation training (2016)
  • Conflict Management Coaching Training – Cinergy Conflict Management Coaching (2015)
  • Practitioner Certificate in Alternate Dispute Resolution – University of Prince Edward Island (2013)

OTHER CREDENTIALS

Alternate DisputeQ.Med – ADRIC

MEMBERSHIPS

ADRIC

ADRIA

Family Mediation Canada

GENERAL

40+ international experience in

labour relations (collective bargaining, union recognition, shop steward training, organizing, strategizing, discipline and dismissals, disputes, job evaluation & classification, health and safety)

change management (organizational change/restructuring, cultural competence, multi-disciplinary teams, joint labour-management initiatives)

leadership development (Leadership training, facilitation of goal setting/planning workshops, mentoring, coaching)

conflict resolution (conflict coaching, training in conflict competence, mediation, workplace investigation)

Burchell's (plains Zebra)

So What About That Zebra in my Logo?

Zebras are to me a symbol of the work I do.

Did you know that the Plains Zebra of Southern Africa isn’t just black and white?

Hidden in the white is a sandy coloured shadow stripe.  It followings the same contours as the dominant black/white stripes in such an elegant mimicry of the obvious that often new visitors to Africa don’t even notice it until it is pointed out to them.

The work I do with you is represented by the zebra’s shadow stripe.

Once I help you to see what’s in the shadows you discover that the solutions are also there, waiting for you to find them.   I work as your tour guide on this zebra-influenced journey.

Let me help you to break out of the black and white repetitive patterns of your life that stop you from changing the things you want to change. Once you have an eye for what’s in the shadows it it’s amazing how you never saw it before. Awareness is the first step. After that the possibilities are everywhere.

I help you to discover the possibilities in the shadow stripes of your life.

I support you in creating your best solutions.