Atlantic Meditation: from mindless to mindful

By Delphine du Toit | December 20, 2013

 My soul is full of longing

 For the secret of the Sea,

the heart of the great ocean

 Sends a thrilling pulse through me.

         The Secret of the Sea – Henry Wadsworth

I’ve spent quite a few
hours in the past week mindlessly staring at the movement of the Atlantic Ocean.  I normally live on the edge of the same ocean some 21 degrees of latitude to the north, but I don’t do this at
home.  I stopped just gazing out at the ocean for hours about six weeks after I moved in.

Sure, I still look up out
of curiosity when a container ship passes too close by the house for my liking. Every time I see a submarine slink in or out of the harbour I think of the U-boats and the net spanned …

Nelson Mandela and Omar Mukhtar: Reflections on Leadership, vision and passion.

By Delphine du Toit | December 6, 2013

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He was as human as the rest of us – discarded his first wife, made many decisions and actions
that he no doubt regretted, was deeply disappointed in many things and people, but was a man of incredible strength and charisma. I loved how charmed he was by young women when he came out of prison,
an old man – with dignity and affection. I met him shortly after he came out of prison – the company I worked for at the time, in Johannesburg, had worked very actively to support the campaign to
legalise the ANC and for the release of Mandela and the other political prisoners, and he came to our head office to show his respects. I shook his hand – a very soft hand, to the touch. We had a
crisis behind the scenes – a white young woman – seriously right-winger, had brought a hand gun to work – she was isolated and immobilised very quickly. She could have become a Wilkes-Booth, Oswald
or a
Nathuram Godse.   
And I remember how the black women on staff all danced, ululated and clapped their hands – I don’t know how to ululate, but I danced and sang with them – what a magical time it was!

One must be careful not to place frail
humans on impossible pedestals, but he certainly has become an icon of what is noble and honourable in human kind.  

Who said ‘embrace change’?

By Delphine du Toit | November 26, 2013

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The worlds of motivational workshops, life coaching and management consulting are peppered with the now seriously clichéd ‘embrace change’.  If you’re not for change you are
against it. You’re either progressive and creative – a constant ball of energy, seeking your next change fix; or you’re stagnant or dead. The literature also tells us that it’s ok to fear change,
while then admonishing us to overcome our fears in a 5, 6, 7 or even 8 step process. That’s all it takes. Follow the steps and you too, …

When a quiet lunch goes wrong in a public place

By Delphine du Toit | November 12, 2013

Irritability can sometimes come out of nowhere and ruin a perfectly good day.   I recently had the
experience with someone who was triggered by the totally innocent and absent-minded behaviour of someone else – a complete stranger:  the signs of agitation were there. She vocalised it “if that
guy doesn’t stop playing with his ice I’m going to have to do something.”  I looked up, and yes indeed at the next table there was a man …


By Delphine du Toit | November 5, 2013

Google is no longer impressed by SEO and key words.  Its bots focus on websites that are active:  regular updating of information through
content refreshing, blogging, articles posted, and the like.

When did you last post a blog or an article on your website?  Do you have it built into your schedule or is it one of those things that started as a
good intention but keeps sliding?


When I visit a …

Don’t feed the Black Dog of Depression

By Delphine du Toit | July 10, 2012

Sir Winston Churchill was prone to depression. He called his depressions his ‘black dog’. Now, I know that not all black dogs are miserable or skulk around in corners, but imagine what you
feel like when you are depressed. More than that, maybe you’re depressed right now, so you don’t even have to imagine it – you can just experience it. I’ll connect the black dog dots for

It starts without you knowing that it has started: Something distant and abstract – remote, even, in your subconscious. A sense of unease swirls around you like …

Now’s the time.

By Delphine du Toit | January 12, 2011

Welcome to my new blog. A really smart woman told me yesterday about how it doesn’t make sense to spend your time blogging on sites that aren’t part of your own website – how that sends traffic FROM your website (where you say ‘click here to see my blog’) TO the hosting website where there…