The other day I saw a wedding video on Facebook. A group of men performed the great and terrifying Maori haka with words especially written for the occasion. Millions have watched the video. Some people felt that the haka was threatening and/or insulting, but no, it is a great sign of respect, according to NewZealand.com
The message of those shouted words (Yes, I had to Google it, out of curiosity) is profound.
“No matter how long you reflect on it, the answer to the problem is here inside you.”
The full text follows below:
Kia whakaronga, kia mau!
Ringaringa e torōna
kei waho hoki mai!
Listen up, take your stance!
out and back!
What is right is always right!
|E tama, te uaua ana
E tama, te mārō
Roa ina hoki ra
Te tohe o te uaua na
E tāu nei.
Āna! Āna! Āna! Aue… Hī!
|So son, although it may be difficult for you
and son, although it seems to be unyielding
no matter how long you reflect on it
the answer to the problem
is here inside you.
Indeed! Indeed! Indeed! Yes, indeed!
In coaching, trusting the client is paramount: The answer to the question the client struggles with are already within the client. The coach’s task is to help the client find it, not to find it for the client. It’s a bit like a sculptor who sees an image in a rock and uses a hammer and chisel to set it free. The client is the sculptor – the owner of the dream or the intention – the coach and her/his processes are the tools that enable the client to bring it all to fruition.
It sounds simple and it is. But if there is no trust it won’t happen. Trust also has to be mutual.
The elegance of a good coaching conversation is as beautiful to witness as a pas de deux in ballet. The ballerina leaps, knowing that her partner is there to support her as she flies in a world of dreams and possibilities.
Funny how hearing a coaching message in a haka evokes the elegance of classical ballet. Not surprising though – coaching is about curiosity and creativity. And trust. And, as we coaches say, dancing in the moment.
© Delphine du Toit (2016)